Neighbours recently had their home remodelled, which involved them putting new glazing in their bathroom. The glass is not frosted enough and there’s a lot to see.

They are large windows too, starting at knee hight. How do I bring this up?

Bonus points if someone can tell me why this community keeps showing my subscription as pending.

  • pillems@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    I have no idea what to do about the not-so-frosty windows, but regarding your bonus question, that’s just lemmy being laggy. Next time you refresh you’ll see that you’re subscribed. I had the same question yesterday and saw it being answered somewhere.

  • sorrybookbroke@sh.itjust.works
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    1 year ago

    The framing in this conversation is important. This is difficult, but making it clear you’d rather not see that is how I’d go.

    I’d tell them that I noticed I could clearly see the furnature, wall, or some detail and would rather not see them indecent.

    No way around it, it’s going to be a bit awkward, but telling them shouldn’t seem like a weird thing to do. If you’re polite, telling them about the issue is a kind thing to do.

    Maybe a note outside their door? Could be anonymous if you don’t know them well and they don’t have cameras, saves both you and them the awkwardness

  • Brad@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    I’d drop a note, to avoid the awkward conversation that might happen & to avoid embarrassing your neighbour.

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      1 year ago

      Even an anonymous note in their mailbox saying something to the effect of: “FYI, I can still see your naughty bits, not that I’m looking.”

  • _s10e@feddit.de
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    1 year ago

    Invite him over while she is taking a shower. Enjoy the view together. Let them draw their own conclusions.

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    1 year ago

    Bring up this issue happening with you, in casual conversation. For example: “when I moved here the house had a lot of issues, for example […] and the glass was not frosted enough. We eventually fixed this […]”

    The idea here is that you won’t be telling them directly, they’re going to realise it on their own.

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      1 year ago

      I love this haha, I live in NZ and people here are very indirect and non confrontational.

      I’m Dutch so quite the opposite.

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        1 year ago

        I was working with a Dutch guy, he’d just flown back to Netherlands and I sent him an email that went something like:

        Hi Jan,

        Hope you made it back ok,

        <work question>

        Cheers,
        Dandan

        He replied inline to my email and under “Hope you made it back ok” he wrote " >I do not understand why this is relevant"