In the last year or so I started to see so many people of my age that have done truly incredible things and still doing more.
For the vast majority of my life my only goals were gettimg academic satisfaction and doing unproductive stuff in the free time to get temporary pleasure. No end goal whatsoever.
I kind of don’t know what I’ve been doing in the last 17 years while someone gets a patent on solar systems, other invents a new recyclable plastic, and another found a successful startup. I mean, they all find what they’re supposed to be doing with their lives and excel in them.
I feel overwhelmed for trying to pace up with these kind of people. Yet I don’t like the way the things are and I can’t do anything but envy those people.
Anyone with experience in this regard? How did you deal with this? Did you eventually “pace up” with these people or was it too late or an unattainable goal?
Edit: Whoops, I didn’t expect so many replies! Thanks, I’ll look into them all
This is what happens when you grow up with boomers in your ear, yelling at you to get a job and make a family. They insist that’s what life is about. But it’s not. Life is about being happy. When it boils down to it, that’s all we really want. Even terrible people do what they do because it makes them happy.
I’m only just taking my baby steps out of this mindset. I learned I can do things no one else around me can. Some may not be marketable skills, but that’s not always necessary.
I don’t work. Thanks to autistic burnout, I’m a shell of my former self. But in that time, I have saved 11 kitten lives and given 3 very short lives happiness they never would have seen otherwise. I’ve brought kittens from the brink of death by starvation to stocky, healthy kittens who now have loving homes. It takes time and effort to do that. One was so sick from starvation he barely moved, and I got him strong enough to get up and play.
It’s not worth any money to have this talent. Not to me anyway. They are all attached to a shelter that makes the money. They make me happy.
It’s not about “pacing up” as you say, or making a mark in history. We need those people, but you don’t need to be one of them. If everyone made breakthroughs, they wouldn’t be as important. The bar would just get set even higher. You make a difference to the people around you. I don’t value my life, but I learned to appreciate that other people do value my life, and that’s good enough.
Let me just say that besides you doing a great thing you’ve put it so eloquently. It made so much sense in my head. You’re having an impact on the lives of those cats. Thank you!
Thanks! I’m glad it makes sense.