Girl, if this is the way you view the dating pool, then maybe MGTOW has a valid point or three to consider.
I may have stepped off the dating field nearly thirty years ago, but in terms of the gratuitous misandry that I have seen as of the last decade or so, even if I were to become widowed I doubt I would ever want to step back onto it. The juice is just not worth the squeeze if I am seen as “the enemy” and facing unjustified hostility and adversarial arrogance long before you even get to know me.
This is for young women, so probably not at all your dating pool if you become widowed after thirty years of marriage.
Dating is very different later in life. My dad was widowed in his mid fifties, and he pointed out that instead of looking for someone for all the milestones, he was just looking for someone he enjoys spending time with. He didn’t even need to agree with them about religion, because they’re almost definitely not raising kids together.
maybe MGTOW has a valid point or three to consider.
No. Just no. Don’t even consider it. Broken clock being right twice a day.
I went down that pipeline simply because on the surface it presents itself as something to help men gain independence from relationships, but the hate and vitriol there and the rest of the manosphere is more misandrist and misogynist than anything this random woman can ever do.
If you went to most redpill communities, I would absolutely agree with you. It’s often really hard to tell them apart from feminist communities in terms of their rage and hate against the other gender.
However, out of sheer curiosity I have poked my nose into and lurked on a number of MGTOW communities that are refreshingly supportive and which do their best to help men move past the rage phase into more productive paths. Mainly because rage generally isn’t conducive to sustained and healthy self-improvement… and if you’re still obsessed with women in any way, you are pretty much failing at “going your own way”.
I actually know a few MGTOW, and aside from ignoring what society and women demand of them, you would never know they were MGTOW. They don’t talk about women. They don’t get upset over what women do or say. They just don’t want to have anything to do with women because they have much better things to do with their lives.
And when women complain to all and sundry that they just want to be left alone, isn’t MGTOW doing exactly what women want – leaving them TF alone? How could that be in any way a bad thing?
While there can be some healthy trends in these online communities, we should look at it from other angles as well. How does it compare to just getting therapy? Does growing some emotional intelligence turn men into incel terrorists the way a blackpill site might? How do these communities loom from the outside?
Let’s assume that the toxic males among MGTOW are just a loud minority. Why would you still want to hang out there? There’s plenty of supportive spaces, both online, and IRL that don’t include men who call women trash. Tolerance of intolerance and all that.
If MGTOW stuck to the goal stated in their name, I’d have been happy to stay with them. But even the most reasonable men I found who identified as MGTOW often had sexist tendencies.
But most MGTOW don’t leave women alone. They lurk and comment in communities for women, they post under every article or post they find about women, they try to spread their misogyny whenever they have a chance.
When you are MGTOW, why do you care so much about what someone writes about dating? Why the need to be so angry about it? It doesn’t effect you, so why does it enrage you when women talk about their struggles with dating or life?
Yes. My excuse is that I moved to Canada from Iran where men and women are segregated, but when I wanted to learn about women and their experiences I made the mistake of going to men to hear about them… as if women can’t speak.
The root of the problem is that MGTOW recognizes a lot of issues men face that plenty of people on the left even deny with virulence. Of course, what MGTOW offers as a “solution” is misogyny that only serves to make everyone more miserable, but the young fools who see someone offering them a hand don’t know that, and it’s very rare for them to even hear any alternative narrative that empathizes with their issues.
Girl, if this is the way you view the dating pool, then maybe MGTOW has a valid point or three to consider.
I may have stepped off the dating field nearly thirty years ago, but in terms of the gratuitous misandry that I have seen as of the last decade or so, even if I were to become widowed I doubt I would ever want to step back onto it. The juice is just not worth the squeeze if I am seen as “the enemy” and facing unjustified hostility and adversarial arrogance long before you even get to know me.
This is for young women, so probably not at all your dating pool if you become widowed after thirty years of marriage.
Dating is very different later in life. My dad was widowed in his mid fifties, and he pointed out that instead of looking for someone for all the milestones, he was just looking for someone he enjoys spending time with. He didn’t even need to agree with them about religion, because they’re almost definitely not raising kids together.
No. Just no. Don’t even consider it. Broken clock being right twice a day.
I went down that pipeline simply because on the surface it presents itself as something to help men gain independence from relationships, but the hate and vitriol there and the rest of the manosphere is more misandrist and misogynist than anything this random woman can ever do.
If you went to most redpill communities, I would absolutely agree with you. It’s often really hard to tell them apart from feminist communities in terms of their rage and hate against the other gender.
However, out of sheer curiosity I have poked my nose into and lurked on a number of MGTOW communities that are refreshingly supportive and which do their best to help men move past the rage phase into more productive paths. Mainly because rage generally isn’t conducive to sustained and healthy self-improvement… and if you’re still obsessed with women in any way, you are pretty much failing at “going your own way”.
I actually know a few MGTOW, and aside from ignoring what society and women demand of them, you would never know they were MGTOW. They don’t talk about women. They don’t get upset over what women do or say. They just don’t want to have anything to do with women because they have much better things to do with their lives.
And when women complain to all and sundry that they just want to be left alone, isn’t MGTOW doing exactly what women want – leaving them TF alone? How could that be in any way a bad thing?
While there can be some healthy trends in these online communities, we should look at it from other angles as well. How does it compare to just getting therapy? Does growing some emotional intelligence turn men into incel terrorists the way a blackpill site might? How do these communities loom from the outside?
Let’s assume that the toxic males among MGTOW are just a loud minority. Why would you still want to hang out there? There’s plenty of supportive spaces, both online, and IRL that don’t include men who call women trash. Tolerance of intolerance and all that.
If MGTOW stuck to the goal stated in their name, I’d have been happy to stay with them. But even the most reasonable men I found who identified as MGTOW often had sexist tendencies.
But most MGTOW don’t leave women alone. They lurk and comment in communities for women, they post under every article or post they find about women, they try to spread their misogyny whenever they have a chance.
When you are MGTOW, why do you care so much about what someone writes about dating? Why the need to be so angry about it? It doesn’t effect you, so why does it enrage you when women talk about their struggles with dating or life?
You really don’t know what MGTOW means, do you? Or are you intentionally tarring everything with the same brush in your manufactured outrage?
If you do it right and actually go your own way you don’t hang around the “manosphere” or whatever it’s called these days.
Yes. My excuse is that I moved to Canada from Iran where men and women are segregated, but when I wanted to learn about women and their experiences I made the mistake of going to men to hear about them… as if women can’t speak.
The root of the problem is that MGTOW recognizes a lot of issues men face that plenty of people on the left even deny with virulence. Of course, what MGTOW offers as a “solution” is misogyny that only serves to make everyone more miserable, but the young fools who see someone offering them a hand don’t know that, and it’s very rare for them to even hear any alternative narrative that empathizes with their issues.