I’ll go first: “You have to have children when you’re young,” told to me when I was in my late 20s, with no desire to ever have kids, and no means to support them, by someone divorced multiple times with at least one adult child who does not speak to them.

Also: Responding to “How do I deal with this problem?” questions with “Oh, don’t worry about it, it’s enough that you’re even thinking about it!”

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    1 year ago

    I mean, good advice if it’s for someone who’s prone to build codependent relationships. Which still, no one but a professional therapist should be diagnosing.

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      But It’s in no way helpful advice to someone who is lonely or otherwise struggling. It’s almost along the lines of “why don’t you just cheer up”.

      Helpful advice would be something along the lines “I understand you are struggling, maybe it would be a good idea to check out therapy”

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        1 year ago

        That doesn’t really say much though. “Never use cement to fill a pillow” is also crappy advice for someone that feels lonely but can be considered very good advice for someone thats considering filling their pillow with cement.