In some ways it seems manipulative. Sometimes it is indeed a yes or no question, but most people know that certain answers require further explanation. It gives off the impression that you don’t wanna hear someone’s side of the story/debate. Sometimes “yes, but” or “no, but” is warranted.

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    Darn, well the least you can do is actually explain why it isn’t unpopular instead of just saying it.

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      “I’m sorry you feel that way.”

      literally textbook gaslighting.

      “Please forgive me, please?”

      1. comes across as sarcastic and insincere.

      2. i didn’t say i was offended, i said your opinion is not unpopular.

      “…the least you can do is actually explain why it isn’t unpopular instead…”

      you haven’t asked for information or clarification, what answer do you expect?

      don’t act so entitled. nobody owes you anything.

      if you want to know something, ask.

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        Your first response to my comments was “nah” which gives off the impression that you knew I was trolling. Then you deleted it and changed it to “for what?” I then said: “the least you can do is explain why it’s not unpopular” I don’t see how that’s gaslighting, but then you said “it’s not the least I can do” I was confused by that statement. So I said: “further explain instead of downvoting for no reason which you have literally done to every reply that I made. You’re right no one owes me anything but if you’re gonna say it’s not unpopular, at least explain why.

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          here’s an explanation of textbook gaslighting highlighting your phrase specifically:

          https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-mental-health-revolution/202203/i-m-sorry-you-feel-way-and-other-gaslighting-tactics

          if you don’t know you’re being manipulative, you should take a step back and be more careful with your language, you’re very rude and entitled and it doesn’t make me want to help you.

          if you want information, ask.

          “You’re right no one owes me anything.”

          great.

          “but if you’re gonna say it’s not unpopular, at least explain why.”

          you still haven’t asked any questions, so I’ll redirect you to your only self-aware statement:

          “You’re right no one owes me anything.”

          if you want information, ask for it.

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        So… you can do more? Make it make sense instead of just downvoting someone because they call you out for not elaborating on what you say.

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          Ask for clarification or more information politely if you want to know something instead of gaslighting people or being rude and flippant.

          you’re very antagonistic.