I can’t even afford taking care of myself but if I have kid, I would adopt instead of “making my own kid”. Why not this is not popular? These kids already came to this shithole (world) and we’re just ignoring them.
I know the answer actually, we’re just slave to our instincts…
My gay friends looked into adopting but eventually concluded that going through a surrogate was actually faster and cheaper than trying to adopt a healthy baby.
(It’s easier to adopt children with health issues or older children, but there are obvious reasons why would-be parents would prefer not to do that.)
Plus, it’s unpopular to say this but genetics matters. Many important traits (e.g. IQ) are highly heritable and parents who can’t or won’t care for their own children are probably a population with worse-than-average genetic assets.