Any/all pronouns. Lazy agender transfem, also asexual and panromantic(? Or maybe aromantic, basically I’m a mess but I’m trying. Possibly my best, but hopefully not)
But it is in a sense all of those things - you are born with a set of genitals that define your sex, as a result your gender identity is also defined at birth based on the social roles that the society you exist in prescribes. There’s arguably a conversation to be had about the entire concept of gender abolition but that’s a hypothetical that we aren’t anywhere near, for the here and now we have genders and people define what that means for themselves
Not really? That depends on the culture one is growing up in. There’s nothing inherently male or female about any clothes, they are defined as male or female based on the society and its gender ideals. At no point did I define things as strictly male or female, and happily enough the lines on what are considered gendered are blurring, the point remains that gender is socially constructed whereas sex isn’t. You aren’t male because you don’t identify as male, someone who was assigned female at birth however could decide that they want to live their lives as a male and identify that way
I typed most of it up and then thought “I should’ve just gone with the tl;dr” but decided I was already committed 😅
Whatever = gender. Like, what else would it be? You are born with a sex - typically male or female - and then society in general decides what that means for you, girls wear dresses and boys don’t, for example. That is essentially gender, the roles we play given the sex we have, but roles aren’t ingrained - a girl isn’t biologically predisposed to wear a dress, she may be biologically predisposed in general to lean towards a female gender identity that includes dresses, and she also might not, and then might also not be predisposed to lean towards that female gender identity at all and instead be transgender.
A quick and dirty tl;dr would be that sex is between your legs and gender is between your ears.
(Disclaimer: I am also a dumbass who isn’t great at putting words down, doesn’t know as much as they think they do, and also hasn’t entirely woken up yet, somebody much more capable in one or more of these areas will likely explain it much better)
As someone whose pronouns are any/all I genuinely don’t care, I’m not going to be offended if you pick one pronoun and stick with it - I am lazy and present male, being AMAB, so people default to he/him anyway - or just use the first one that springs to mind everytime you refer to me. Obviously I can’t speak for everyone who is any/all but I imagine if most people cared they wouldn’t go with any/all
And if he does, so what? There’s nothing I can do about that so why should I worry?