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Mutual aid

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This.

One of the best ways to confront a bigot is by pretending to be completely naive of their intentions, and getting them to dig their own hole by repeatedly asking them to explain what they mean.

Yeah, it can be hard because everyone has shit going on, it’s why having someone in your life whose specific job is to help you with stuff like this is so helpful, because it feels less like pilling on to someone else. You can of course hire a PA, but that becomes expensive, but it’s definitely worth looking around, try ADHD/neurodiversity specific charities or organisations, but depending on your circumstances you might qualify for other types of places too.

Also, don’t be embarrassed, I’ve taken years to sort shit out, life is already so overwhelming, having additional barriers to deal with these aspects of life can make it almost impossible at times. You’re doing your best.

it’s a little easier said than done.… it’s weirdly difficult to get help and executive dysfunction can be a real bitch.

Oh 100%, executive dysfunction really is an absolute bitch, and getting through that wall can be the hardest fucking part!

Not to mention just how hard it can be to find medical staff that isn’t burnt out to the point of not giving a crap… :/

I know it seems like just adding an extra step, but have you considered checking if there are any (volunteer) patient advocacy services available near you? I have some other difficulties too, so more help might be available to me, and also I don’t know where you are, in US it might be too big an ask, but having an advocate has been a game changer for me - they help make calls for you to arrange appointments and follow ups and stuff, help liaise with staff if you need them to, basically they jump a lot of the hurdles for you to help you get to where you need to be.

If something like that isn’t available, is there anyone in your life that you’d trust to advocate for you? In any case, you’d need to give permission to your provider to speak to them on your behalf, which again seems like just an extra step, but I really think that sharing some of the burden of acting with someone else can be a great help (though it might not work for you, and that’s ok too).

That’s outrageous, you shouldn’t have to deal with this bullshit.

I agree with the other reply - report them and find a new GP, I know that’s a massive pain and hassle, but it’s so important to have a medical team that is there to help you make your life better, not judge and police you according to their own questionable morals.

When I was a kid my parents wanted to open up an existing cavity under our house to build a basement, and that never happened because it (E: was discovered during the building inspection that it) was full of Radon. I guess I’m desensitised (but possibly slowly decaying a little faster than I should be…).

This is incorrect. Not only did humans used to work significantly less and we (the working class, anyway) in the past few centuries have less leisure time than ever, but if anything, the introduction of what you consider “civilisation”, and especially class and money, harmed art more than anything by giving the power and control over it to those who aren’t creating it, and leaving those who are, starving, like the rest of the plebs, or completely undiscovered due to lack of privilege, opportunity, and access.

They can find another line, or skip trying to be funny altogether if the only way they can think of is gendered and they can’t be arsed to check the gender of the person they’re talking to.

And lets be honest - it wasn’t that good a joke.

Either way, it really isn’t fucking difficult, and is definitely easier than whatever the fuck this mess is.

Your app would ideally just respect display names and it would require no extra effort on your part to gender people correctly.

Even if pronouns aren’t displayed, it takes even less effort to use neutral pronouns for everyone unless you know otherwise.

That’s not an excuse nor justification for misgendering anyone, neutral pronouns exist, use them.

I uh, I don’t think it’s reasonable to expect people to check others profiles to ensure we are correctly pronouning them

And yet, in that little whine right there, you managed to use the very gender neutral pronoun that would have saved you all this hassle (including the hassle you’re making up of having to go and look up the pronouns of every individual you interact with).

So you know it exists, and you know how to use it, but you decided to try and be funny instead, and it backfired.

You misgendered someone, and now have to deal with the most minor of minorest consequences for harm you caused to another.

You are still free to create 100 different accounts on 100 different instances, just not the one where you broke the rules. No one owes you a platform, deal with it.

Your choice now is to double down and make it worse, or you can be an adult, admit you made a mistake, and learn from it for the future so you don’t repeat it.

I dare to say you have already chosen, but feel free to prove me wrong.

It’s much scarier yet (but explains a lot) how quickly some people make excuses for racism.

Like, what was going through their mind?

Racism.

!bonsai@discuss.tchncs.de

“I have the privilege to be completely oblivious to glaringly obvious racism”

They are police

FTFY

There is nothing weirs about it - those that work forces are the same that burn crosses

Yup. I’ve had to stop using ebay because even when you check out with your own card, it goes via paypal, and they have misused my data too many times for me to keep putting any trust in them.

It sucks, because a lot of mutual aid is done over paypal too, but I’m really struggling to justify leaving my account open (and I’m not even in the US where op applies).

Putting their butt in your face: they want you to lick it, as their mother would. Obviously, don’t do that, but instead, give their haunches and above-the-tail backside a good scritch

Unless the cat is in the same position pictured in op, because in my experience their tail will go up and you will have a butthole directly in your face 😂

And nothing of value was lost that day (why would you even want to read that rag?)

Though I agree in principle, fuck these scummy practices.

I’d like to see an example of a healthy romance that doesn’t involve friendship.

You won’t find one because that wouldn’t be healthy, but it is the kind of transactional relationships those who are heavily invested in the idea of “the friendzone” are looking for. They do think friendship is lesser, and don’t want an equal partner and friend, they want a subservient housekeeper they can also fuck, and maybe even smack around occasionally as am outlet for their frustration with the world.