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  • Yes and no; you left out part of my quote. Stuff that can be put in a reminder is up to me (especially if I tell them “I’ll handle it”). But if for whatever reason that’s not possible and I tell them “you might have to remind me again next week” and they are fine with that, then they shouldn’t be pissed if I indeed needed a reminder. That’s what I meant with “I warned them”.


  • This doesn’t seem reasonable… If you accept some responsibility

    But … that was the point. “Telling them your boundaries” implies not accepting something you are not up to. My managers know that I am not a good manager myself. I have a lot of qualities, at being a driving force in a project is not among them. So they don’t utilize me for that. Which is good.

    Yes, it would be on me if I constantly tell them “sure, just let me handle it” and then not handle it. But that would be the opposite of what I wrote above.


  • I mostly agree, but (what else ^^):

    No one has the right to make their internal turmoil everyone else’s problem, even if it may be particularly burdensome. The world should be far more sympathetic and empathetic, but at some point you have to take responsibility for you.

    IMO you do take responsibility when you tell others about your boundaries and how they can work around them. If they don’t want to because it also costs them a little bit of energy and disrupts their typical workflows they have (again: IMO) no right to blame it all on you. If I tell them “I can’t do X” or something and they again and again expect me to do X, it’s also on them.

    Simple example: I tell colleagues, family, whatever to please remind me again if they feel I missed something they expected of me. If they do, all is good. If they later are pissed that I missed something and immediately blame me … sorry my friend, I warned you. (If I had the ability to set a reminder, sure that’s on me for not doing that. But it doesn’t always work that way.)




  • glibc’s malloc increases the stacksize of threads depending on the number of cpu cores you have. The JVM might spawn a shitload of threads. That can increase the memory usage outside of the JVMs heap considerably. You could try to run the jvm with tcmalloc (which will replace malloc calls for the spawned process). Also different JVMs bundle different memory allocators. I think Zulu could also improve the situation out of the box. tcmalloc might still help additionally.


  • aksdb@lemmy.worldtoADHD@lemmy.worldWhat's your job?
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    Software/Staff Engineer, as Architect and Solver. So I help design our system (from the technical side), I assist and to a degree coordinate teams, I jump in when know how or man power is needed, I rework or rebuild systems that have no clear ownership of a team, and so on. Oh and I always have an opinion no matter which (technical) topic.


  • I ran Arch on a convertible laptop around 2006-2010. Most notes I did using OpenOffice Writer, with hotkeys to quickly add formulas. Drawings were done with the pen. Homework (where speed didn’t matter as much but where I wanted high quality) were done in ConTeXt.

    Programming was done in FreePascal using Lazarus IDE or Java using Netbeans IDE, depending on the course and my personal preference.

    I think I had no complaints from anyone. Quite the contrary, one professor even gifted me a book as a thanks for the high quality typesetting in my homeworks, since most students didn’t give a shit and had no fucking clue how to really use their beloved MS Word.