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There are still parts of the world that think owls are bad luck or ill omens and will kill them or drive them off.
That said, anything popping out of the dark or making sudden unexpected sounds is going to startle people pretty good. That’s led to plenty of spooky stories and owl based spirits over the years.
I choose you for choosing there dead wife ∆∆∆∆∆
I agree, it is probably not advisable for most people to do what I did.
There are many details left out of the story, but the things that really helped were that it was obvious to everyone she was a good person that was having some kind of mental illness. The police and judge were definitely not thrilled with her, but they all seemed to recognize she was not your typical troublemaker. They could have made the situation much harder to deal with.
Also her being from a family that is solidly upper middle class that is very close with each other. They also supported her emotionally, and were able to afford her treatment at the hospital and her lawyer whereas I would not have been able to.
She was extremely fortunate, all considered, throughout the whole process. It was always apparent that she wanted help. I’m a bit of refurbished “damaged goods” myself, so I was able to spot a lot of potential situations before they got much chance to develop, and could tell her to get her medications adjusted or what things to talk to her psychologist about.
Most people in her case I’m sure do not have anywhere near the resources available we did, which I do not take for granted, and she has known that also, especially being in the group therapies has shown her what could have been and I feel that was very helpful.
I don’t like getting credit for anything, as with any one factor being missing from the whole situation would have let the whole mess fall back down. I absolutely was one key ingredient, but if you asked me, I’d say a few other people were more overall significant.
But she’s the only one that had to be there through the whole thing. The rest of us could all have given up if we wanted to at any time. But she faced it all head on and dealt with every bit of it herself. It takes an amazingly strong person to do that, and that is my favorite thing about her is that inner strength while still caring so much for the other people around her.
My girlfriend had a lot of untreated mental/personality conditions when I met her that I was unaware of. Over the first year, she couldn’t keep it together anymore and was doing drugs more, missing tons of payments on things, missing work, fighting with friends and coworkers, and just started being rude to people for no reason.
She was still really nice to me, but she just wasn’t behaving like the person I met anymore. I started considering breaking up with her, but by that point she was starting to get in trouble with the police. I kicked her out and sent her back to her family and she ended up checking into a mental facility.
I visited her pretty frequently while she was there. I told her she should have been more forthcoming because I couldn’t help her if I didn’t know what was going on. I told her I was ready to dump her because I thought she was becoming an asshole, but now that I knew she was just sick, we’d get her taken care of.
She went through a couple years of finding the right medications that she could stick with and did a lot of therapy, group meetings, and DBT classes.
During Covid she registered to go to community college and give that another try. It was a bit difficult getting back in after failing out before, but she got in and worked really hard. She was the favorite of a lot of the teachers, and she almost got all As through the 2 years.
She graduated this year and had a job offer where she was interning waiting for her, and now she has a job she loves, and makes decent money.
We repaired her credit over the years, and it’s getting back to near excellent. We got her a new car when she had to commute to intern and do in person class and she’s kept it in good shape and quit smashing into things. She has great relationships with people now. She’s really done a total and successful rebuild after hitting rock bottom, and she’s still a friendly, caring person who is fun to be around.
I was extremely proud to see her graduate. I feel that was a major milestone from where she started. I don’t think I could have gotten myself out of what she was in. She had to work tremendously hard, but she was dedicated and determined for the years it took to accomplish, and she’s never skipped backwards. I could not be much prouder of her.
I wouldn’t be doing my job if I didn’t promote the superb Owl!
Stealth
Great Eye Sight
Many have 3D hearing to “see” under leaves or snow
Near silent flight
Can rotate their head 270 degrees
Tremendously strong grip strength
Beautiful and effective camo for any environment
Have settled almost everywhere on Earth but Antarctica (so far!)
Great facial expressions
Diverse vocalizations
They can control positioning of individual feathers to either thermoregulate or to change the focus of their hearing.
Their eyes dilate individually to maintain peak vision when one eye is in a shadow, but the other in the sun.
Have a third eyelid to protect those special peepers while fighting, eating, or from dryness and abrasion in flight.
And I’m sure I forgot a few things, but that’s a good start to the amazing world of owls!
The hippo is the true king of beasts! So cute and plump, yet so deadly and fiercely protective. Also much faster than you would ever believe something that big can run on land, yet is almost stealth in the water until you’ve angered it. It also has one of the most powerful bites and skin 2 inches/ 6 cm thick.
I’ve become the go-to owl person of Lemmy, but I’m a long time hippo fan.
Crunchwrap, either the breakfast one or the lunch/dinner one. If hard pressed, I’d say the breakfast one is better.
I don’t like the Baja Blast personally, but you should try it as I think it’s the only place you can get it.
Diablo sauce I think tastes like a spiced ketchup or BBQ sauce, too sweet for me, but the girlfriend loves it.
Those are the most unique items to me.
This. I have an old vintage alarm clock that I put across the room. It’s set to my “if you aren’t up by now you will be late no matter what” time. If my phone alarms don’t get me up, this thing is so loud and unpleasant I will certainly get up.
Phone ringers are too pleasant sound and easy to snooze. I need to change the tone every few months as I adapt to them all. A harsh metal bell or mechanical buzz on an alarm with no snooze that I cant reach from bed has me wake up at the last phone ringer because it is so ear shattering when that alarm clock goes off, I can snap through all but the worst sleep deficit nights.
It also pisses off the girlfriend when that annoying thing goes off too, so then I have her mad at me for waking her up if I’m not up to shut it off before it lets loose.
Came to make a smartass comment like “at least they’ll grow out of it when they become adults, right???” but the more I stared at the chart and thought about what it was saying it started to hurt a bit.
I had a bad time largely growing up, and still to this day struggle a lot with depression. I’m front about the happiest time period on this chart.
I went and looked up the study, and there’s over 40 pages of charts similar to this one. All the things about depression seem up, and participation in school, activities, and dating/sex/drugs are all down considerably. It doesn’t sound like anything is better for kids.
I didn’t have children, mostly due to the bad time I had, so I’m curious to go back and read the study, though I didnt see any obvious conclusions skimming through. I feel my perception of if things are bad today is skewed due to my issues, so is the world really worse these days, or is something else going on?
I’ve been using Kiwi for the last few years, as at the time Firefox didn’t do extensions on mobile. It’s Chromium based, and I’ve had no issues using it anywhere.
This was what I came here to say.
My HOA is thankfully decent, but I know many have but had positive experiences.
When we’re talking Lemmy instances, packing up and moving is one thing, but when we’re talking residence, who’s going to want their local dictator running things?
People like to hate on things like McDonalds or Budweiser and so on, but with that massive oversight and standardization, you gain a consistent product. With laws and their enforcement, it’s nice to have that consistency.
Worry about red/blue states is bad enough, let alone if we’re talking red/blue streets! Some things are better big and boring.
Not too many situations that would not be improved with some piano!
Ethiopian is amazing! So much flavor, plus you get to eat the plate and utensils! 😁
I try to pick something I’ve never had before first my birthday meal every year. The best one was probably the Uzbek place. Everyone there kept trying to talk to me in Uzbek as we appeared to be the only native English speakers in the house, so I’ll assume it was authentic.
All kinds of grilled meats, multiple types of breads, fancy sodas (tarragon was awesome!), sour cherry pierogies with whipped sour cream, stuffed pasta… They had some of everything with their own twist on it. I had plov, the national dish, which was a rice pilaf with grilled meat. Absolutely delicious.
I’d say the hardest cuisines to find here are anything African or anything Eastern European. For that though, the secret is keeping an eye out for church festivals. The Greek Orthodox Church has one that has African and Eastern European, the Polish shrine has a Polish festival, and the Coptic church had Egyptian.
I’ve been starting to learn some Afro-Latin jazz as part of my piano study, and it’s gotten me into listening to reggae as well, and I’ve really been enjoying it. There were naturually a ton of repeat references to things I knew nothing about. The Wikipedia page on Rastafarianism was enough for me and a Youtube video about the significance of Haile Selassie to the belief system instantly set off a whole bunch of conspiracy theory alarm bells.
I’m not in the market for any religion, but even if I were, I don’t think this would be in my top 3. I’ll stick with learning piano instead.
I have the AP Top Stories page as my bookmark. It gets rid of even more of the stuff OP doesn’t want.
Only borderline story is about Taylor Swift and food banks, but the focus is on the economics and other issues food banks face, so I feel it is still within guidelines. There’s no celeb drama or gushing in it.
This and my local NPR affiliate are my primary news sources.
Perfect!
Give that a read, and then if you want to follow it, the wiki will give you the current lowest costs funds for all the major companies so you can do your IRA/401/HSA into the best funds available.
The Bogleheads Guide to Investing was the thing that helped me the most. My family got me prepared for day to day finance, but nobody explained retirement savings to me.
This book broke everything down into easy to understand terms, and made me feel comfortable investing wisely.
The book used to be free online, but I don’t see it anymore. You could search up a PDF, or they have a really good wiki that covers most of it, but more briefly. Here is the Getting Started page.
He keeps pretty good rhythm!