I’m not that well read on this subject, but you can do this in your house or with a VPS? I always thought there was some conflict with residential internet and selfhosting?

Yes but I only see 2 problems so far. The siloing of instances and searchability. I can’t search with lemmy yet since there are so many instances with no standard like with site:reddit.com. Way less issues than dealing with reddit so it’s a big win for me!

I like the idea of nostr, but is there a fork around to avoid the stream of cringe bitcoin talk? I think this would be ideal for something like high speed discord, more than a twitter replacement.