Yea, fair

'Just pull yerself up by yer own bootstraps, lad!

While I do agree (or at least hope) that we all have the agency to positively influence our own lives and those around us, the main point there in my opinion is that different people have different resources in life. Someone that’s experienced systemic racism, or someone who’s brain is a wee bit non-standard just has it harder than someone not experiencing these issues.

Behave by Robert Sapolsky. It’s an excellent book if you’re trying to understand why the people around you are like… well, that way. But if you didn’t study neuroscience, you’ll likely have to re-read it to get at least the most important points to stick.