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Cake day: August 3rd, 2023

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  • Well, it sounds like you’re going after women out if your league because you think they’re attractive and that’s a valid choice. But it is a choice you’re making. It sounds like you could have intimacy if you lowered your standards or increased you attractiveness (gym etc). Or you could abandon dating to not have to face rejections.

    So I think the key to avoid bitterness is to reevaluate if the choice you are making still works for you if it brings up bitterness. Then you can either stay with your choice or switch, if you don’t think any other option brings less negative feelings.

    And if you choose the best option for you, there’s no need for bitterness.








  • I agree, if I subscribe to a community that has 2 posts a week, I wanna see those posts, eben if they have no comments. I wonder if a lemmy equivalent to a multireddit could also help? In a multireddit you could group communities into one separate feed (like just create a multireddit “cats” and add all cat related subreddits to this multireddit, and then you could see all cat related content within one feed.

    Its not as good a solution as to have the algorithm push it, but maybe there’s a lemmy functionality I’m unaware of that could already emulate this process.









  • Yeah, but I’d argue those countries either have people being decently fluent in multiple languages (which is not what this graph implies) or they have evolved their institutions and society in a way where meaningful societal and political participation is possible regardless of what language you speak. I don’t think the US is at that level, and I think it being that way if this is lived reality for a lot of Americans IS a systemic failure.

    The failure is not necessarily having multiple languages spoken, but the institutions not reflecting this reality. So you can either invest in people being fluent in a common language in addition to whatever languages they may speak OR redesign institutions and reshape society. Not doing any of the two is a systemic failure imo.