In some ways it seems manipulative. Sometimes it is indeed a yes or no question, but most people know that certain answers require further explanation. It gives off the impression that you don’t wanna hear someone’s side of the story/debate. Sometimes “yes, but” or “no, but” is warranted.

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    2 months ago

    Everybody thinks differently.

    When talking to someone like that, just explain that for you to view it like that, first all the context needs spelled out.

    Like:

    Should you ever burn your house down?

    Treat it like a straight yes/no question and the answer is “no”. 99.99999% that’s the answer.

    But what if there’s like, a really big spider? Or the thing from The Thing and you’re in Antarctica?

    Don’t frame it as an excuse for why someone did something, ask for or provide the context. Be empathetic and think like the person you’re talking to, don’t argue with them treat it as as small independent steps that led or leads to what they’re asking about.