I can’t even afford taking care of myself but if I have kid, I would adopt instead of “making my own kid”. Why not this is not popular? These kids already came to this shithole (world) and we’re just ignoring them.

I know the answer actually, we’re just slave to our instincts…

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    1. Adopting a baby is insanely expensive. More so than giving birth. They are absolutely sold for insane prices, it’s messed up but that’s how it is. There is huge demand, lots of people want to adopt babies.

    2. Adopting older children is seen as a terrible idea because they are “universally fucked up” and will have behavioral problems, mental illness, etc.

    3. Babies happen by accident all the time

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      My friends were telling me, that my wife and I are not capable of raising a traumatized child from 7 or 10 or whatever.

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      The third sentence… I don’t want to understand and accept it…

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        What is so hard to understand? A ton of pregnancies are accidental. You may be from a place that demonizes or covers it up, but it happens. Your lack of acceptance does not change the facts.

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          He refuses to believe that there is demand for adoption but that red tape has made it a less than desirable path.

          Edit: apparently the reality is a bit sadder than that